How Can I Help Someone Else?

If someone approaches you to tell you about abuse that they have endured:

  • Listen to her – give her the space and time to tell you whatever she wants to tell you
  • Believe her – your task is to support, not be the judge of who is right and who is wrong
  • Allow her to give you as much detail about the abuse as she would like to
  • Do not judge her – these are very complex situations and judgment does not help to solve them
  • Do not tell her what to do – be open to the fact that there are a number of possible outcomes to the situation
  • Refer her to this site so that she can learn about the help available to her
  • If she wants to be able to contact you in an emergency and you are comfortable with this, agree with her and ask her what she would like you to do if you get a call from her in an emergency