Red Flags of Abuse

If you are in a relationship or are starting a new one, it is important to be aware of the types of behaviours that are commonly observed in abusive people. If the person you are dating shows some of these traits, it is important that you proceed with caution:

  • Moves too fast in a new relationship
  • Jealousy – wants you all to himself
  • Hypersensitivity
  • Blaming of others – sees himself as a victim
  • Resentfulness
  • Entitlement – deserving of special treatment
  • Controlling – often disguised as concern for your safety
  • Tries to restrict your exercise of very ordinary adult rights or freedoms
  • Believes he is or acts superior to others
  • Deception and lying
  • Doesn’t respect boundaries
  • Isolates you from family and friends
  • Cruel or disrespectful to other people or animals
  • Accuses you of being unfaithful
  • Has a history of abuse (which he denies)
  • Uses force during arguments
  • Disregards your boundaries around sex
  • Sabotages your efforts to use birth control
  • Convinces you that you are to blame for relationship problems
  • Convinces you that your memory is faulty

Research shows that people who have been in abusive relationships in the past (even as children) are more likely to find themselves in one again. 

These people should exercise special care when entering new relationships.

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